Love Will Be Our Home

If home is really where the heart is
Then home must be a place that we all share
For even with our difference our hearts are much the same
And where love is we come together there.

Wherever there is laughter ringing
Someone smiling, someone dreaming
We can live together there
Love will be our home.
Where there are children singing
Where a tender heart is beating
We can live together there
Love will be our home
With love our hearts can be a family
And hope can bring this family face to face
And though we may be far apart our hearts can be as one
When love brings us together in one place.

Wherever there is laughter ringing
Someone smiling, someone dreaming
We can live together there
Love will be our home.
Where there are words of kindness spoken
Where a vow is never broken
We can live together there
Love will be our home

Love will, love will be our home
Love will, love will be our home
Love will, love will be our home
Love will, love will be our home

Susan Ashton wrote music to some beautiful words written by Steven Curtis Chapman that have always been an anchor for me and my thoughts of a lovely home. I love the song done by the two artists. After many years in marriage I have learnt a few lessons to share with those working on their homes.

First of all, which do you have, a house or a home? Suppose you lost your house today, would you still have a home? What is a home? It is made up of a family who has CHRIST in their hearts and genuine love for each other? So, no matter what kind of a house you live in you can still have a home. Now, which one do you have? “But if serving the LORD seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve…But as for me and my household, we will serve the LORD.”(Joshua 24:15).  Billy Graham once said, Nothing can bring a real sense of security into the home except true love.

Psalm: 127:1-2: Unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labour in vain. Unless the Lord watches over the city, the guards stand watch in vain. In vain you rise early    and stay up late, toiling for food to eat— for he grants sleep tothose he loves.

There is a word that is used to describe the broken and shattered homes of today. They are called disfanctional homes. If you listen carefully you will hear people talking about disfanctional homes or disfanctional families. Now this leaves me with the impression that there are homes somewhere that qualify to be called functional homes. With that my mind goes back to the first family before their fall – Adam and Eve. They were created and placed in a perfect environment. Everything about them was perfect in the beginning. Then sin came in and it has never been the same ever since. To say that our homes need improvement is to acknowledge that everything is not very well and what it should be. When it comes to modelling a house there are four (4) things we need to remember.

1)      It takes longer than you originally planned
2)      It costs more than you figured out.
3)      It is messier than you had anticipated.
4)      It requires greater determination and more patience than you expected.

This analogue is also true of your home and family as well. You make plans get married; improve your relationship with your spouse and children. In the beginning everything goes on very well, but then somewhere along the way, you just begin to realise that:-

1)      It takes longer than you originally planned
2)      It costs more than you figured out.
3)      It is messier than you had anticipated.
4)      It requires greater determination and more patience than you expected.
It is not easy, but with the help of God, it can be done and it will be worth it all. Here are some of the lessons I have learnt.
A strong Home Life begins with a Strong Married Life.

I know we are in the 21st century and there are few arranged marriages. If yours was arranged it was still your choice I suppose to marry that person. So if you are married and reading this, I take it that you chose to marry the person you are married to. You knew or should have known what you were getting into when you married that person. If you are not married but are making plans to get married siome day, I want you to know this, that whom you marry is your choice and you need to know the person you are going to marry before you do so. You should never marry someone hoping to change who they are, for only God can change a person. Home improvement will never occur apart from God. There is more to a home than neither the house you live in, nor the car you drive and the money you make. You can have all these things the world can give but never really have a home. A home is a place where a family lives together in fellowship with God and with each other. Where Love is never broken – that is home.

A solid home begins with improving our relationship with God. Psalm 127:1 says Unless the Lord builds the house (home) the builders labour in vain. This scripture reveals that we are dependent on God to build strong homes. All of us make mistakes in our home lives. When we do so, there is need for us to go back to God for guidance and directions. We need God to help us clean up the mess that we have made. God is active in helping us to build stronger and better homes. I want to share four (4) activities in which God is involved in.

I. In Building the House.

Psalm 127:1 Unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labour in vain. You need a strong foundation, strong walls and a roof (Lk 6:47 -49). These represent:-

(a)    Stability
(b)   Security and
(c)    Serenity

All around us we see the results of the breakdown of the family. Many of problems stem from moms and dads that do not take their roles as parents seriously. Many homes and governments have tried education, legislation, and every other approach, but nothing seems to work. The Apostle Paul’s solution to antagonisms in the home and in society was REGENERATION, a new heart from God and a new submission to Christ and to one another. God’s great program is to ‘gather together in one all things in Christ. Paul indicated that this spiritual harmony begins in the lives of Christians who are submitted to the Lordship of Christ”.

Christian families are to be different, “set apart” from the world. What unbelievers want to know is “Does Christianity work?” If our faith won’t work at home it won’t work anywhere. Parents, you may not be able to do anything about our national dilemmas, but you can do something about your family, your children.

Marriages and families in our time tend to be war zones and disaster areas. Homes aren’t havens. There is no peace and joy and contentment and bliss. Rather conflict, intimidation, and separation.

II. Guarding The House

Psalm 127:1b unless the Lord watches over the city, the guards stand watch in vain. The Psalmist in Psalm 62:1-2 says; “My soul waits in silence for God only; From Him is my salvation. He only is my rock and my salvation, My stronghold; I shall not be greatly shaken.

We need to realise that there are attacks from outside and attacks from within. The Lord must watch over our home and defend us. Unless He himself does so, all electric fences, panic buttons, guards and all security systems are in vain both from external and internal enemies.


III. Provide for the House.

Psalm 127:2 In vain you rise early     and stay up late, toiling for food to eat— for he grants sleep tothose he loves.

This scripture does not promote laziness. In fact it rebukes the lay but also  rebukes the workaholic.

A story is told of a dad and a son. The son said to his dad. “Daddy, how much do you make an hour?” With a timid voice and idolizing eyes, the little boy greeted his father as he returned from work. Greatly surprised, but giving his boy a glaring look, the father said, “Look, Sonny, not even your mother knows that. Don’t bother me now. I’m tired.”

“But Daddy, just tell me please! How much do you make an hour,” the boy insisted? The father, finally giving up, replied: “Ten dollars per hour.” “Okay, Daddy. Could you lend me two dollars?” the boy asked. Angry with his son’s constant pestering, he said, “Go to sleep and don’t bother me anymore.”

It was already dark, and the father was feeling guilty for what he said. Maybe, he thought, his son needed to buy something for school. Finally, trying to ease his mind, the father went to his son’s room. “Are you asleep, son?” asked the father.

“No, Daddy. Why?” replied the boy, partially asleep? “Here’s the money you asked for earlier,” the father said.

“Thanks, Daddy!” rejoiced the son, while putting his hand under his pillow and removing some money. “Now I have enough! Now I have ten dollars!” The father gazed at his son, confused by the meaning of what he had just said, when the boy continued, “Daddy, could you sell me one hour of your time, please?” Then it dawn on the father that his son needed him at least an hour would do for him.

It is the same with many parents today. They are often too busy trying to make a living for the family that they forget about the family as a whole. There are times that we need to push our busy schedule aside and make time to spend with each other. I know many parents that work 6 to 7 days a week, anywhere from 8 – 12 hours a day. They never have time for the other members of the family. We may work ourselves to death in order to buy our family all the earthly goods this world has to offer. There are some things that money can’t buy. Let’s look at some of the things that money can’t buy.

A. Money Can’t Buy Love

Romans 5:8 But God demonstrate his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

I want you to look at the word sinners. The word sin means to miss the mark; therefore a sinner is anyone who misses the mark. There will be times that some of us will miss the mark in our home. We may not all ways do what our spouse or children want or like. Nor will they always do the things that I like or please me. There will be times that we say things and do things that we don’t mean. Things that hurt and wound. Love says I will keep on loving you anyway. Nothing you say or do will ever keep me from loving you.

John 13:34 “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. 35 By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”

Love is more than a feeling. Love is a choice and action. There will be time when you will feel like you don’t love your spouse and sometime even your children. But we do.

Our families need love. We need to spend time nurturing unconditional love.

B. Money Can’t Buy Acceptance

Ephesians 1:6 to the praise of his glorious grace, which he has freely given us in the One he loves.

All of us want to be accepted. When we feel that we are being rejected and pushed to the side it hurts. We feel unwanted and unloved. We feel like no one cares for us. When we are accepted, we since of belonging. I am a part of something that accepts me, loves me and cares for me.

C. Money Can’t Buy Support or Encouragement

John 14:16&18 And I will pray the Father, and He shall Give you another Comforter, that He may abide with you forever. 18. I will not leave you comfortless, I will come to you.

All of us at some time or another need the loving support of family member. Someone that we can go to with our problems. Someone I can share my pain with, without being criticized. Someone that will lend us a shoulder to lean on or cry on if necessary.

D. Money Can’t Buy Forgiveness

Ephesians 4:32 And be ye kind one to another, tender- hearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.

Forgiveness is something that we all need. If we stay together long enough we will do something that will hurt or offend one another at times.

God gives us all of these things. God gives us love, acceptance, support, encouragement, and forgiveness. If we will trust God and rely upon Him, He will give us the strength and courage to give all of this to our families. When we give and receive love, acceptance, support, encouragement, and forgiveness, our homes will have stability, Security and serenity.

IV. Heritage for the House.

Psalm 127:3-4 Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him. Like arrows in the hands of a warrior     are children born in one’s youth. Blessed is the man     whose quiver is full of them. They will not be put to shame when they contend with their opponents in court.

God give us children to bring joy, happiness and laughter into our lives. I remember that each of my children when they were born,  made it a day of great joy. Over the years they have brought a lot of happiness and laughter to our home. However over the years as the children begin to grow they can be the source of great pain and heartache. Many times it is because we as parents have failed to raise and train our children properly. We were either to strict or too easy on them. When one parent tries to discipline the child the other parent steps in and takes up for the child. If you disagree with the way your spouse is disciplining the child take it up with him/her in private, not in front of the children. Some parents however refuse to discipline their children at all. I am one of those who do not beat my kids but at one voice, they all listen. Off course Nomsa is another challenge owing to her age. I believe that we as parents are mostly responsible for how our children turn out in life. We need to nurture and develop our children in a Godly and biblical manner.

Luke 2:52 And Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favour with God and man. This scripture reveals four areas in which children need to develop. Luke 2:52, “Jesus grew in wisdom, stature, and favour with God and man.” Wisdom, that’s mentally. Stature, that’s physically. Favour with God, that’s spiritually. And man, that’s socially.

Mentally, physically, spiritually, and socially, these are the four areas in which children need development. When they come into the world they are undeveloped. It is up to you and I as parents to develop our children in these four areas. If we don’t they will never reach their full potential.

A. In order to grow mentally our children need instructions and guidelines on how to live their lives.

Deuteronomy 6:4-9 Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.

B. In order for our children to grow in stature They Need to know that their bodies are the Temple of God.

1 Corinthians 6:19-20. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honour God with your bodies.

C. For our children to grow in Spiritually They need to learn to live in away that is pleasing to God.

Colossians 1:10 so that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God.

They are not going to do this if they are not developing a relationship with God through Worship, Prayer and bible study.

D. For our children to grow socially They need to learn to respect others.

Eph. 6:2 Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; If our children don’t honour and respect their parents they will not honour and respect anyone else.

In Conclusion: Who is building your Home? Is it you or God? If God is not building your home then all of your work is in vain. We cannot properly care For and provide for our home without God being in it.

Let me tell you a story in closing: A family went to the hospital and right in front of them was a huge man who stepped on a scale to check his weight. The nurse had not noticed that the scale was out of order. So when he stood there on the scale, it did not move but only showed 0kgs. One of the little children of the family that went to hospital were just coming close to the scale. A little girl seeing the scale not moving looked up at her dad and said, “Look, dad! That man is hollow or as we would say is empty. ”

Hollow is a word that unfortunately describes many homes in our world today. Maybe that is the way you fill your home is. Is your home hollow? Is it empty? Well today God can build and fill your empty home if you will ask Him to.

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One Response to Love Will Be Our Home

  1. faith says:

    very enriching


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