BIND US TOGETHER, Lord, Bind us together
With cords that cannot be broken.
Bind us together, Lord,
Bind us together,
Bind us together with love.
There is only one God,
There is only one King;
There is only one Body,
That is why we sing:
Made for the glory of God,
Purchased by His precious Son;
Born with the right to be clean,
For Jesus the victory has won.
You are the family of God,
You are the promise divine;
You are God’s chosen desire,
You are the glorious new wine.
It is a great thing when couples celebrate and reaffirm their love and commitment for one another by renewing their marriage vows, either privately or publicly, and by saying “I do” again. This past week, Enid and I did just the same. We rededicated our marriage and love feels so fresh and new.
The prophet Hosea 11: 4 says “I led them with cords of human kindness, with ties of love; I lifted the yoke from their neck and bent down to feed them”. The words of the hymn, “Bind us together, Lord” evoke a deep longing in one’s innermost being, the need to belong in a special sense to others; not because of necessity; not for convenience; not out of fear, but as the beautiful verse from Hosea says (Hosea 11:4 ), tied to others with ties of love, just as the Lord binds us to himself. As Enid and I were thinking along these lines, we were intrigued to come across this quote from John Milton;
“Loneliness is the first thing which God’s eye named not good”
We quickly had to go to Genesis to read for ourselves the truth behind this statement and found the verse;
“The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him” (Genesis 2:18)
We were never created to live apart from others. The Creator had decided right from the beginning, that he would instill in us a need for each other, but even so unfortunately, loneliness especially in large towns or cities, is very much a part of our present day society. To our shame it sometimes also exists within our church families. This beautiful hymn is urging us to seek out those who feel outside the circle and lovingly include them so they feel tied in to the family by love.
I thank God for a lovely spouse and loving mother of my children. How humbling and enjoyable it has been to share our lives together. Through it all, I can testify that, “ Unless the LORD builds the house, its builders labor in vain. Unless the LORD watches over the city, the watchmen stand guard in vain. 2 In vain you rise early and stay up late, toiling for food to eat– for he grants sleep to those he loves”. Psalm 127:1-2
For sure evil one is waging a war against the Christian home. Satan’s attack on the first marriage in the Garden caused the fall of man and loss of rulership of the world. Prior to the Flood, demons cohabited with women in a demonic attack upon Marriage Culture which almost destroyed the entire human race. In the Church Age, the enemy is unseen, but Satan is vigilant in his attack upon marriage. The evil one is actively engaged in the destruction of Marriage Culture from childhood, through the teens, and into adulthood.
Here are four elements of his attack: –
- he has been at it for a long time.
- He knows his business.
- He knows your weaknesses.
- If he can succeed in breaking up your home, he may be able to get your souls.
The devil has two goals, two strategic moves:
- he wants to break up marriages
- he want to destroy relationships between parents and children
When people live according to the teachings of Jesus, their homes strengthen and are filled with love and joy. When people fall to Satan’s temptations, their homes are filled with sadness and pain.
The greatest need in our society today is GODLINESS!
- we need godly husbands and wives
- we need godly parents
- we need godly and respectful children.
Some lessons on what you can do to keep your marriage strong:
- Spend time with each other. Homes tear apart when people drift apart. Willard Harley suggests 15 hours per week of meaningful time.
- Keep your spouse your best friend. Always show respect by your words and actions. Never give to a friend the place that belongs to your spouse. Your spouse is first in everything.
- Never let anything come between you. Cancel any talk, interaction that causes rift with your spouse (Matt. 19:6). This is a firm decision two people make up front in a covenant.
2 Tim. 2:19 Nevertheless, the firm foundation of God stands, having this seal, “The Lord knows those who are His,” and, “Let everyone who names the name of the Lord abstain from wickedness.”
2 Tim. 2:22 Now flee from youthful lusts, and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.
4. Keep the flame of romance alive. Cherish the one you love! Prov. 5:15-18: Drink water from your own cistern, And fresh water from your own well. Should your springs be dispersed abroad, Streams of water in the streets?
Let them be yours alone, And not for strangers with you. Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice in the wife of your youth.
- Say “I love you” every day.
- Kiss each morning, each night, each time you part, each time you greet.
- Flowers, cards, dates and
- Put your spouse’s needs before your own. Pride usually leads to strife and loneliness, but love and humility lead to happiness and harmony. You will have to listen to do this.
- Quickly apologize and quickly forgive. Eph. 4:26-27 BE ANGRY, AND yet DO NOT SIN; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and do not give the devil an opportunity.
- Remember that marriage is sacred. It is God’s will and God’s plan; there are no substitutes. God joined you together.
Finally, Happy homes are like beautiful gardens. They must be tended, watered and loved. Anybody can grow weeds, but gardens take lots of care. And then, Your home is what you make it. Make it lovely and bright and good.